The Loudest Conversations in the Office Are Whispered in Silence
- Gandharvi Nadkarni
- Apr 9
- 2 min read
Let’s talk about something we don’t talk about enough—literally.
In every office, in every team, there’s a whole layer of communication happening that no one actually says out loud. The raised eyebrow in a meeting. The silence after someone shares an idea. The quick glance between two colleagues. These “invisible conversations” shape how we feel at work, how we’re perceived, and even how far we go in our careers.
But if no one’s saying these things… how do we hear them?
That’s the trick. And once you learn to tune in, you’ll never unsee it.
Listening Beyond the Words
Think about a great sports coach. They don’t just listen to what their player says—they pick up on what’s not being said. That slumped posture? That hesitation in their voice? It tells a story.
It’s the same at work.
People don’t always say when they’re overwhelmed, disengaged, or even just unsure. But they show it. In how they speak. How they show up. How they contribute. As leaders, peers, or teammates, it’s on us to notice.
Creating Safe Spaces
Ever been in a meeting where you felt something was off, but no one said anything?
Sometimes, it’s not that people don’t have ideas—they just don’t feel safe enough to share them. That’s where inclusive culture matters. It’s not about checking a box—it’s about making people feel seen and heard.
Think of it like playing on a basketball team. If only two players get the ball every time, the rest will stop trying. But when everyone feels like their contribution matters, that’s when the magic happens.
Check In, Not Just Check Up
Here’s something I’ve learned over the years: the most valuable conversations I’ve had with colleagues rarely happened in formal meetings. They happened during coffee breaks. After check-ins. In those in-between moments where trust builds.
A simple “How are you really doing?” goes a long way. And no—it’s not about prying. It’s about showing that you care beyond the deadlines and deliverables.
So, how do you put this into action?
Here are three easy things to try this week:
In your next team meeting, actively invite input from someone who usually stays quiet.
Schedule a few one-on-ones just to connect—not to discuss tasks.
Start building a habit of open, real-time feedback. It doesn't have to be formal. Just honest.
These small changes can unlock big shifts—in trust, culture, and collaboration.
Let’s make the invisible visible.
And I’d love to hear from you—What’s an unspoken rule or dynamic at your workplace that you’ve learned to navigate? How did it change things for you?
Let’s start that conversation.
Best Regards,
The Reflective Lens
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